Best Physical Remote Control Sex Toys: Tried And Tested Picks

There are two quite different things described as ‘remote control sex toys’: those controlled through a phone app, and those which come with an actual controller you can hand to your partner. This guide is about the second kind. Sometimes I want clever long-distance features, and sometimes I just want somebody else to have the buttons without downloading an app, creating an account or involving my phone in proceedings.

We’ve tried remote-controlled bullets, panty vibrators, clitoral suction toys, couples vibrators and anal toys, and the remote is much more useful on some than others. Once a toy is inside you or tucked into your underwear, being able to change the settings without rummaging around is quite appealing.

These are our picks for different types of stimulation, with links to the full reviews if you want the finer details.

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Best Remote Control Sex Toys: Quick Picks

• Best remote control clit sucker: huxi Sucking Sweet
• Best couples vibrator: We-Vibe Chorus
• Best remote control panty vibrator: Rocks Off Knickerbocker Glory
• Best remote control dildo: MINA Bloom
• Best remote control bullet: Bed Nerdz Sandy
• Best remote control butt plug: Rocks Off Cocktail Butt Plug
• Best remote control prostate toy: Mantric Prostate Massager
• Also worth considering: We-Vibe Moxie+, which I haven’t personally tested.

Physical Remotes Vs App Control

A physical remote is usually intended for nearby control, whether that’s across the bed or across the room. It doesn’t need an internet connection or your phone, although you may need to pair it with the toy initially. An app-controlled toy offers more options, including internet control on compatible models, which is what you need if your partner is somewhere considerably further away than the kitchen.

I own plenty of app-controlled toys, and Lovense in particular does long-distance play very well. For playing together, though, a small controller can be easier than getting a phone out. Some toys, including the We-Vibe Chorus, offer both, so you can choose whichever suits the occasion.

huxi Sucking Sweet: Best Remote Control Clit Sucker

The huxi Sucking Sweet combines clitoral suction with an internal vibrating arm, in a design small enough that I’ve actually walked around wearing it. Tight underwear helps hold it in position, although the suction contact can shift as you move. Plenty of dual-stimulation toys are technically hands-free; this one goes a bit further towards being properly wearable, without a huge lump protruding from the front.

The remote is basic plastic, but it connected straight out of the box and lets you control the suction and vibration separately. Being able to stop immediately after orgasm is particularly welcome, because continued suction at that point is not my idea of a good time. It isn’t as good as my favourite premium suction toys, and it isn’t quiet enough for a silent room, but it’s an interesting option if you specifically want suction with a physical remote. Read my full Sucking Sweet review for the practical limitations.

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We-Vibe Chorus: Best Couples Vibrator

The We-Vibe Chorus is designed to sit internally and against the clitoris, including during penetrative sex. Its adjustable joints let you alter the fit, which made it considerably more successful for us than the older We-Vibe Unite. The vibrations were also a substantial improvement, rather than the faint suggestion that a motor might be doing something somewhere.

Its silicone remote has separate controls for intensity and patterns, plus a squeeze function, so there’s more to play with than a single button cycling endlessly through settings. You also get app control if you want it. Suction remains my personal preference for clitoral stimulation, but the Chorus is a versatile choice for couples who want a wearable vibrator with both physical and phone control.

Rocks Off Knickerbocker Glory: Best Remote Control Panty Vibrator

The Knickerbocker Glory is a straightforward panty vibrator that sits inside your underwear while your partner operates the remote. It’s small, lightweight and a good starting point if you’re curious about wearable vibration but don’t want to spend premium-toy money finding out whether you enjoy it.

The main compromise is how it stays put: secure underwear matters, because there isn’t a magnetic attachment holding it in position. It also doesn’t have the power or app features of some more expensive wearables. What it does offer is a simple way to try partner-controlled stimulation without much setup, which may be all you’re looking for.

MINA Bloom: Best Remote Control Dildo (That’s Actually A Rabbit Vibrator)

The MINA Bloom is a rabbit vibrator that takes a different approach to the controller. It comes with a flexible internal vibrating shaft and a separate vibrating egg, which you can detach and use as a remote to control the shaft. Instead of receiving another plastic remote destined to vanish into a drawer, you get a second functioning toy, which is a much better use of the space.

The shaft is soft and squishy, although fairly substantial in girth, and gave me more of a back-wall or A-spot sensation than firm G-spot pressure. It was a slower build for me, but it got there. You can use the egg externally or internally, or combine the two parts for dual stimulation, making Bloom particularly interesting if you want several ways to use one purchase. Just bear in mind that its controller is another vibrator rather than a conventional handset.

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Bed Nerdz Sandy: Best Remote Control Bullet

The Bed Nerdz Sandy is the remote-controlled bullet we tried in the Rodeo Drive gift box. It’s compact, rechargeable and has ten vibration modes, with plenty of strength for its size. A bullet also gives you more freedom over placement than a shaped wearable: you can hold it where the vibrations work best for you while somebody else handles the settings.

I generally reach for suction toys or wands before bullets, but Sandy is a useful option if you want something smaller and more straightforward. It doesn’t require you to commit to an internal toy or find the right fit for a couples vibrator, and the remote adds partner control to an otherwise familiar design.

Rocks Off Cocktail: Best Remote Control Butt Plug

The Rocks Off Cocktail offers more than a vibrating plug. It has an additional flexible arm for vaginal or external stimulation, with two motors that can be controlled separately using the remote. Whether that extra arm appeals will depend on your anatomy and what you want from an anal toy, but it gives the Cocktail more versatility than a conventional plug.

We liked the strength of the vibrations and found it stayed in place better than some smaller plugs we’d tried. The remote also has an obvious practical benefit here: changing the settings doesn’t involve reaching around to find a button on the base. It’s worth a look if you enjoy anal vibration and want the option of an additional point of stimulation.

Mantric Prostate Massager: Best Remote Control Prostate Toy

The Mantric Prostate Massager is our pick if you’re specifically looking for prostate stimulation with a physical remote. It’s a different proposition from a general vibrating butt plug, so choose according to the stimulation you want rather than assuming all anal toys do roughly the same job.

Remote control is particularly useful with this type of toy because the wearer can adjust the vibration without reaching for the toy itself, or hand control to a partner.

We-Vibe Moxie+: An Untested Alternative

We-Vibe’s current Moxie+ is another option for wearable clitoral vibration. It attaches to underwear using a magnetic clip and offers both a physical remote and app control, making it worth considering if you want nearby partner control alongside the option of internet-connected play.

I haven’t personally tested it, so I can’t tell you how securely it stays put on me, how the vibrations feel or whether I’d prefer it to the Knickerbocker Glory.

What To Check Before Buying

Start with the stimulation you actually enjoy. A remote won’t turn a bullet into a suction toy or make a poorly fitting wearable comfortable. For something worn under clothing, fit and noise matter just as much as wireless control; the huxi Sucking Sweet, for example, is wearable but certainly isn’t silent. If that’s your plan, our guide to discreet public play covers the practical considerations.

Look at the controller too: separate intensity buttons are useful, particularly if you dislike cycling through patterns, and check whether the remote needs disposable batteries even when the toy is rechargeable.

Manufacturer range claims also aren’t a guarantee that a signal will travel through bodies, clothing and walls equally well. For a partner in another town or country, head to our best app-controlled sex toys guide instead.