CalExotics Connect Venus Butterfly Wearable Dual Vibrator Review

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Wearable sex toys for public sex play have come a long way over the last few years. What started as a niche category full of underpowered gadgets and ambitious marketing claims has evolved into one of the fastest-growing areas of the industry. Brands have invested heavily in app control and long-distance functionality, creating toys that are not only more discreet but considerably easier to use.

That’s why I was quite interested to try the CalExotics Connect Venus Butterfly App Controlled Wearable G-Spot Vibrator and review it. On paper, it ticks a lot of boxes. It’s cute, it’s wearable, it’s app-controlled, and it’s designed for both internal and external stimulation. The product information promises everything from long-distance play to hands-free pleasure.

Having recently reviewed the Lovense Ferri wearable panty vibrator, I was particularly interested to see how a slightly more affordable wearable vibrator with g-spot stimulation would compare.

A Quick Note Before We Start This CalExotics Connect Venus Butterfly Review

OK so first off, I believe that my review sample is faulty. The Venus Butterfly is supposed to have dual motors: one in the internal arm and one in the butterfly-shaped external section for clitoral stimulation. Despite charging it fully, while the internal motor worked as expected, the external motor could be heard straining but produced no vibrations.

Under normal circumstances, if I’d bought this toy myself, I’d have contacted the folks at Lovehoney for a replacement. In my experience their customer service is excellent and I’ve never had any issues exchanging faulty products.

The reason I haven’t done that here is simple: even putting the suspected fault to one side, I wasn’t particularly impressed with the Connect Venus Butterfly vibrator from CalExotics. A working external motor may have improved the experience, but I don’t think it would have fundamentally changed my opinion of the toy, the app or the overall user experience.

With that in mind, I’m reviewing this Butterfly vibe exactly as I received it, but your mileage may vary.

First Impressions Of This Toy

The Connect Venus Butterfly is clearly trying to be a modern wearable, app-controlled vibrator for couples.

Let’s start with the positives; it’s cute to look at, albeit kind of like a butterfly with a massive erection. The internal arm which is there to deliver G-spot vibration is comfortable enough.

The silicone feels pleasant and premium, the toy is waterproof and USB rechargeable, the vibrations from the internal motor are perfectly acceptable.

The Connect Venus Butterfly Vibrator In Use

At 3.25 inches insertable length, the internal arm is surprisingly small for a toy that places so much emphasis on G-spot stimulation. While I could feel the vibrations, it never really felt as though it was reaching the areas the marketing promised.

Compared with many rabbit vibrators and dual stimulators I’ve tested recently, the Venus Butterfly feels rather modest. I don’t need huge, or even above average to make an impact, but at this size it’s simply not effective.

The external butterfly section is supposed to provide clitoral stimulation, although in my case that experience was difficult to judge because the motor wasn’t functioning correctly.

Even if it had been, however, I’m not convinced the design would have won me over. Although cute, the butterfly wings spread stimulation across a wider area rather than focusing it where I personally prefer it.

The Marketing Sounds Better Than The Reality

The product description for the Venus Butterfly vibrator promises:

• App-controlled pleasure, with a user friendly app
• Easy setup with detailed instructions
• Long-distance functionality
• Wearable hands-free stimulation

Unfortunately, the reality was considerably less polished.

Before I’d even formed an opinion on the vibrator itself, I was already annoyed by the app.

Let’s Talk About The CalExotics ‘User Friendly’ Love Spouse App

The Connect Venus Butterfly uses the Love Spouse app and from the claims on the box, I was expecting something broadly similar to Lovense, We-Vibe or LELO. What I got instead was one of the strangest companion apps I’ve ever used, and nothing like the marketing photos.

The first challenge was simply getting connected.

How To Connect The Venus Butterfly To The Love Spouse App

The instructions say;

1. Download the Love Spouse app.
2. Create an account.
3. Find the hidden card underneath the packaging insert.
4. Enter the binding code.
5. Hold the power button for three seconds.
6. Test the controls to confirm connection.

In reality, it was a bit like completing an escape room. The app requires a QR code to ‘bind’ the toy, which was not contained anywhere on the packaging as implied. Instead, there was a four-digit code hidden on a separate card, tucked underneath the packaging insert. I spent far longer than I should have trying to work out why the app wanted a code that apparently didn’t exist.

Once I’d found the card and entered the code – 5120 on my model, in case you are currently going through the same – things didn’t improve much.

The pairing process itself isn’t particularly intuitive, requiring you to bind the toy and then activate pairing mode by holding the on/off button for several seconds, at which point you need to test the controls to see if it’s paired because there’s no indication in the app – the little indicator light was green whether the toy was switched on or off.

Things became even more confusing when the toy started switching itself off. Normally I’d check the battery level, but the app doesn’t display one. Combined with the permanently green connection indicator, it was impossible to tell whether the toy was disconnected, low on charge or simply having another moment.

Love Spouse App Review

Once connected, I was greeted by an untranslated Chinese warning message, which appears to relate to permissions required for connecting and controlling the toy, including photo permissions which I backed out of very quickly. If your app is being marketed internationally, users probably shouldn’t have to start translating error messages.

This wasn’t an isolated issue either. The entire app feels unfinished in places.

Within a short period of installing the app, I discovered:

• Community features
• Public profiles
• AI chat
• Virtual gifts
• VIP memberships
• At one point I received an invitation to a video interaction from somebody I’ve never met.

I downloaded an app to control a vibrator, I did not expect to accidentally join a social network.

To be fair, these features can eventually be disabled through the settings menu. My issue isn’t that they exist, as some users may genuinely enjoy them, but that they appear to be enabled by default.

If I’m downloading an app to control a sex toy, I’d rather the toy controls were the priority and the AI and networking features were optional extras.

Trust Matters In Sex Toy Apps

Normally I test long-distance functionality when reviewing app-controlled toys (you can read a thorough round up here) but I didn’t in this case.

After dealing with hidden binding codes, untranslated messages, community features, video invitations and various permission requests, I simply didn’t feel comfortable asking my partner to install the app on his phone, and deleted it from my own phone sharpish.

That’s perhaps the most telling criticism I can make.

App-controlled toys require trust. I trust Lovense, I trust LELO, and despite the bugs I trust We-Vibe. The Love Spouse app never reached that point.

Missing The Basics

What frustrates me most is that while the developers have clearly spent time building community features, they’ve overlooked basic functionality.

For example:

• No battery percentage indicator
• Unclear connection status – A green connection light that appeared even when the toy was switched off

These aren’t exciting features, but they’re the things that make an app pleasant to use.

Connect Venus Butterfly: Difficult To Recommend

The CalExotics Connect Venus Butterfly isn’t the worst or the weediest vibrator I’ve ever tested. It’s body safe, the internal arm is comfortable enough, the vibrations are acceptable and the concept itself isn’t a bad one. You could wear this around comfortably inside tight underwear and enjoy sensation during public play.

The problem is that there are simply too many compromises:

• The toy feels small.
• The butterfly design didn’t particularly impress me.
• My review sample appears to have a faulty external motor.
• Most importantly, the app experience is miles behind competitors like Lovense.

Having recently reviewed the Lovense Ferri, another wearable app-controlled vibrator, the difference is stark. The Ferri connected quickly, the app felt professional and the technology faded into the background so I could focus on the toy.

With the Venus Butterfly, the technology constantly demanded attention. I spent more time thinking about pairing codes, permissions, settings and connection issues than I did about the actual vibrator (and that didn’t even work. Womp Womp).

And for a toy whose biggest selling point is supposed to be its app-controlled experience, that’s a difficult recommendation to make.

The Connect Venus Butterfly v Lovense Ferri: Wearable Toys Comparison

Normally I try not to compare toys that aren’t direct competitors, but in this case I think it’s unavoidable. I’ve recently reviewed the Lovense Ferri, another wearable, app-controlled vibrator aimed at people looking for hands-free and long-distance play.

The Venus Butterfly and Ferri take slightly different approaches. The Ferri is purely external, while the Venus Butterfly combines internal and external stimulation. However, if you’re shopping for a modern wearable vibrator, there’s a good chance you’ll come across both. More importantly, the comparison highlights just how important the app experience has become.

Here’s how they stack up.

Feature	CalExotics Venus Butterfly	Lovense Ferri
Type	Wearable G-spot & clitoral vibrator	Wearable panty vibrator
App Setup	Account registration, hidden binding code, confusing pairing	Account required but quick setup, straightforward pairing
App Quality	Poor	Excellent
Long-Distance Features	Available, but I didn’t test them	Excellent
Connection Reliability	Inconsistent	Reliable
Battery Information	Not displayed	Clearly displayed
App Translation	Some Chinese text remained	Fully translated
Social Features	Community, AI chat, video calls, virtual gifts	Lots, but this is all opt-in only
Trust Factor	Low	High
Clitoral Stimulation	Weak (and potentially faulty on my sample)	Surprisingly powerful
Wearability	Fine	Good
Ease of Use	Frustrating	Simple
Price	£59.99/$69.99	£99.99/$139.99
Would I Recommend It?	No	Yes – Read review
Where to buy	Buy (UK) Buy (US)	Buy (UK) Buy (US)

In Summary

Ultimately, the Venus Butterfly isn’t a terrible vibrator. It’s a mediocre vibrator attached to a genuinely frustrating app. A working external motor might have improved my experience, but it wouldn’t have fixed the hidden binding code, the untranslated messages, the confusing setup process or the unsolicited video chat invitations.

And when app control is the main reason to buy a product, those are problems I can’t ignore.

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